I’ve already posted about my decision to restructure the History of the Entire World series, and my intentions to balance out all that researching and writing with a little more farming.
That’s two updates about future plans, but–as my favorite writing handbook points out –triads are always rhetorically effective. So here’s the third part of the update.
Next year, I’m taking a break from conference travel.
Since 1999, I’ve been going to conferences, speaking at educational gatherings, schools, retreats, you name it. I have always loved talking to parents and teachers (and fans of my history books) face to face. But there are three reasons that I’ve been turning down invitations for 2013.
First, I’m a little burned out. I’ve been doing conference travel for fourteen years. Conferences are hard work. There’s a dead day on either end for travel; hotel rooms, which are like little tiny Gardens of Eden when you have a houseful of toddlers, are less exciting over a decade down the road, when you can actually sleep and eat and shower in your own home without anyone sticking their fingers under the door; restaurant food really packs the pounds on, once you pass that fortieth birthday; and when you’ve been saying the same thing in workshops for one-third of your adult life, sometimes it’s just time to stop and rework everything from the beginning.
Second, I need a year to take care of things back on the farm. Home education conferences are at their height in the spring, which is exactly when lambing, fruit-tree spraying,pasture-planting, chick-hatching, and a host of other things are right smack at their height. We’ll be doing lambing for the very first time in March and April of 2013; I’ll feel better sticking around. My parents are older than they were; I don’t want to leave them to watch over the farm in my absence. And the kids are older than they were too. They miss me when I’m gone, and they’re not going to be home that much longer.
Third, I’m discouraged by the conference scene, which is becoming increasingly polarized. Those of you who attend home education conferences may have noticed this.
I love to teach; I love to help parents and teachers teach. That’s part of what I do. But conferences seem, increasingly, less focused in education and more on lifestyle: whether that’s back-to-the-earth, drop-out-of-the-system, or build-God’s-kingdom-through-home-schooling. Check out the workshop offerings at your nearest conference, and look at the percentages: how many of the workshops are dedicated to teaching and learning? and how many focus on parenting, marriage issues, family dynamics, church matters, theology, bread-baking, organic gardening…?
Let me be clear: I don’t pay for the hotels, the meeting spaces, the tech support, the insurance, or anything else for these conferences. If the leadership of a conference wants to make it an Education Plus Preferred Lifestyle sort of get-together, no problem. I’ll still come and talk about education.
But in the past few years, I have been asked, by multiple different conference organizers, to promise to NOT talk about certain theories, or certain types of education; to give any appearance of endorsing certain organizations, life choices, or philosophies; to swear I won’t bring certain books for my book table; to mention certain words. None of which, I should say, have anything to do with what I normally talk about: grammar, history, writing, reading, learning. I have been told that I am not welcome, in some cases, because I talk too much about the psychology of learning, and not about the Bible. Or because I have a theological degree and am obviously pushing a Christian agenda. Because my “professional associations,” however loose, are too liberal, or too secular, or too Christian.
And many of the conferences that put these restrictions on me don’t advertise themselves as “A Conference on Education For People Who Hope To Follow X Philosophy of Life.” They present themselves as “The Official State Home Education Organization For Your State!” or “The Only Education Conference You Should Attend if You Teach Your Kids!” or…
I’m weary of it.
I’m not sure where we go from here, to tell you the truth. I just know that I am increasingly frustrated, and that my particular set of gifts (I am darned good at teaching people how to do things; I inherited that from my mother) do not seem to be what many conference organizers are looking for.
So those are the three reasons why I won’t be at 2013 conferences.
Honestly, I’m hoping that in 2014, I’ll be able to speak at home education conferences again (and that this post plus my sabbatical won’t deep-six that possibility). But that remains to be seen. I do think there’s an increasing need for education-focused conferences that don’t require parents to affirm a particular set of beliefs at the door. The need for home education is only growing greater, not less. I may experiment, over the next year, with some smaller local workshops, and with some online options. I expect there will be some History of the Renaissance World-related events. I’ll keep you posted.
In the meantime, though: if you want to come hear me speak before 2014 (or possibly ever, depending on how my brief exodus is received), you might want to check out my 2012 dates.
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I’m an avid reader of your blog and own just about everything you have written thus far.
I COMPLETELY agree with this post. You have so succinctly put to words my own frustrations.
I have homeschooled for 15 years and it has been many years since I attended my last *convention* for the very reasons you listed. I will be anxiously awaiting to see what your next move is, but like others I wish you the best during your sabbatical. You give so much of yourself to all of us, I know your family will enjoy having you to themselves.
Thank you so much for all you do and who you are. You have my utmost respect and set a wonderful example.
Susan, I’m glad I got to hear you in Atlanta one time, and I hope your sabbatical is the refresher that you need and want. Changes of scenery are important. All the best, and I’ll continue to read you here. Thanks
I hate that you won’t be at conferences next year; however, I completely understand your reasoning. I can only hope that some of your local workshops (or perhaps another writer’s workshop weekend -hint, hint) will work out for me for next year.
I’m with you. I’m less and less comfortable with the homeschool community at large, and middle age and the loss of my parents has made me want to focus on activities that I enjoy and where I can make a real difference. I know other homeschool speakers and vendors who have stepped away because of feeling “out,” the financial drain of doing something that really doesn’t affect their bottom line, and the desire to focus more on what they love. It will be interesting to see what the homeschool convention world looks like in five years.
I will miss you Susan. We all will miss you. Your absence will impoverish us all. I hope you will indeed return in 2014 and I will look forward to receiving even more anointed teachings! While I reject much of what my old professor at Harvard, Bernard Bailyn, proposed, he was right in suggesting that our metaphysics must never be overwhelmed, but must always be informed by, our epistemology. You always provide both with aplomb, grace, and generosity. Karen and I send our prayerful regards.
“But conferences seem, increasingly, less focused in education and more on lifestyle”
Amen to these words you have written here Susan! I am a homeschooling mom in NC. I need help with education and teaching – I am NOT looking for a lifestyle coach!!!
Here in NC right in the Triangle area. You want to come here and try a small scale workshop I will personally lead a group to help you get it off the ground. I PROMISE!!!
Anne
Thank you for all you have done. You have helped me homeschool 4 children for the last 10 years and I want you to know that I appreciate it. I am also frustrated with the conferences. I left the Midwest Homeschool conference early mostly because there were so few teach the teacher classes which is what I really need even after ten years. I would love to attend a small conference similar to the WTM conference you did in Williamsburg several years ago. Thanks again and enjoy the farm!
Well said, Susan. I came to 3 of the workshops you offered adjacent to the HEAV convention 2 years ago. I alternated between your workshops and the curriculum sale. I was so happy to get to hear you in person, and I admired (and still do) your courage to offer those workshops. I had no desire whatsoever to go to any of the offerings at the convention; I was too disgusted. I drove down from Northern Virginia just to hear you, as well as avail myself of the opportunity to look at a bunch of curriculum in one fell swoop. I had a marvelous time!
My husband and I ultimately decided against homeschooling after a few years because it was so incredibly difficult to build/find a community and we found the experience horribly, destructively isolating as a result. We were either too Christian or not Christian enough, or not the right kind of Christian, too structured or too unstructured, too egalitarian in our marriage or too husband-led (yes, this last was the subject of intense pre-playgroup questioning). I still mourn the loss of what I had imagined our family organization would be, but less so now that nearly five years have passed and we’ve found ourselves in a supportive community that regards us as only slightly eccentric for the educational enriching and augmenting we do at home.
I always hoped I’d hear you speak in person one day. I’ll not let that hope go just yet
You were the beginning of our homeschool journey 10 years ago when I read The Well Trained mind and consequently found a conference where you were going to speak just to get inspiration! Since then we have used your books (as well as your moms) and I can’t say how grateful I am for them.
I haven’t been to a Homeschool Convention for 6 years – so this year I searched you out again and headed from PA to OH this past weekend. I totally agree with what you said – I was there to get the dirt on academics and it wasn’t prevalent.
I didn’t get a chance to talk to you at the conference (I had my chance, but you looked beat…or maybe that was how I felt) however, I wish I had taken the opportunity to tell you thank you in person for all you do for homeschooling. I wouldn’t have been in Ohio if you hadn’t been speaking.
Next time I will just come to your area for one of your mini-conferences!
BLESSINGS to you and your family!
Finding your book, The Well-Trained Mind, opened a new world to me. It has helped in guiding us thru our children’s education. We don’t home school but we do supplement our children’s education at the moment. The book really helped us to look at the school’s curriculm to see where we need to add.
Although I was a straight A student in school, I can’t write. It has had negative impact to my professional career. I don’t want the same for my children. I have ordered your Writing with Skill book for myself. I guess you are never to late to learn. I am also half way thru the History of the Anicent World.
I really would love to hear you teach but have not be interested in attending conferences. I prefer smaller settings. I really wanted to attend the conference at your farm. The timing was not good this time around. Although I would love to attend one of your session someday, your writings do offer postive impact those who want to learn.
Enjoy your time off from conferences. I agree with your philosophy about the conferences. I find that often they are far too much about simply marketing their products than teaching. I guess that is the main purpose of the conference but I love to learn how to inspire my children and really impact them. Everyday my children beg to do Story of the World – that is what I love to hear!! So thank you for all you do!
Susan,
Your past writings and articles have been very clarifying for me in terms of needing to get my spiritual direction from my pastor and church community and not from homeschool celebrities or certain curriculum choices.
I have very slim pickings at homeschool conventions and go for the classical seminars. I have noticed a difference in the last few years in the lack of purely educational offerings. I am sorry for the grief you get and I understand why you are taking a break. Thank you for giving so much of your time. I saw you in Williamsburg for the Well-trained Mind conference a few years ago as well as at a convention last year. I have been able to help so many new homeschoolers from your website and books. I don’t know how I would homeschool as confidently as I do without your specific instructions. I was just at a meeting last night explaining Writing with Ease to some moms.
God bless and enjoy your farm!
Enjoy your sabbatical from the conferences, Susan, you certainly deserve it. I thoroughly enjoyed meeting you and your mom at the homeschool conference in Atlanta several years back. It was the best conference I’ve attended, none before or since have measured up.
You have given so many of us a precious gift – a map (TWTM) and the tools (SOTW, WWE, FLL, etc.) to guide our children through a great education at home. For that I will be eternally grateful.
Several other posters have suggested your own workshops, which I would happily support, but that still means hotel rooms, eating out, and foreign showers and beds. With today’s technology I bet you could put on a great virtual conference! And just think – you could legitimately have sessions on homeschooling and raising chickens or running a farm!
Hope you have an awesome break, Susan!! (and I’m seriously hoping it’s just a break.) You will definitely be missed!
Over the past ten or so years, I’ve so appreciated the opportunity to hear you speak in person….you’re the best at providing the nuts and bolts for how to teach writing, grammar, literature, history and more, in a step-by-step, bite-sized-pieces way that makes me feel like even I can do it. Although (as a new homeschooler) I did benefit from some of the general, encouragement-type workshops offered at most homeschool conferences, over the years, I’ve needed more concrete instruction as to how to teach ___ better. I think of it as continuing education for me, the teacher. Unfortunately, those kinds of workshops were too few, as you mentioned.
A Peace Hill Press (or WTM-branded) conference would be amazing….Is that doable? That way, it would be run by people you know and trust.
BTW, I work part-time in a local curriculum store and I tell everyone I can about your coming to speak in the Houston area this summer. Lots of us are very excited!!!
Looking forward to seeing you again.
Karen K.
Susan,
I was at the convention last weekend in Cincy and I spent my time going between you, Andrew Pudewa and the convention hall for the very reasons you cited above. You did an amazing job, as always, and I always get so much out of your talks that I can apply directly to what we are learning.
A homeschool convention that is a little heavier on the education side of things would be terrific. Our faith is critical to our family life, and I find that there are so many resources that speak to that… It would be wonderful to have an outlet to get recharged in our academics as well.
Enjoy your time… That time of not knowing what is coming next can open some pretty amazing doors! Thanks for all of your work!
YES. And if me agreeing with you means I’m not invited back next year, then so be it. YES to more conferences that equip parents to teach their children at home. There are plenty of other resources and ministries for parenting and marriage.
OH- and I just read the above comment about a Peace Hill Press Conference. I’d come to that in a heartbeat!
Susan,
I have been eclectically educating my children for 16 years. I quit identifying myself as a “home educator” because I find I don’t fit into any of the various agendas. We don’t put our kids in school for two reasons: 1) we want them to have an excellent education and 2)quality relationships demand more time than school allows for families and 3) we want to foster autonomy in our kids. That’s it. Homeschooling conferences and associations are following the hanger method (my term) that always fails. Take a good idea (like home education) and start hanging various hangers on it that seem interesting (gardening, homesteading, etc) and pretty soon, the original good idea is so weighted down by the add-ons that you can’t see it anymore. I say we start a new movement called “Eclectic Education” and have our own conferences ;0) p.s. Love your books!